It's funny, I was talking to a good friend about my crusade against the word "crazy-busy" and this idea of everyone telling everyone else how busy they are all the time, like it's a badge of honor. And surprisingly, she said, "Do you know how embarrassing it is not to be busy? What are you supposed to tell people?"
Oh. Right. That's how we show that all is well in our culture. A packed calendar, a list of accomplishments - a whole lot of doing, doing, doing. We're fine - we're just so busy!
Me - I'm starting to rebel against this kind of thinking. For the past bunch of years, I've been slowly chipping away at this concept. Now when people ask, "How are you? Really busy?" I've stopped saying, "Oh, yeah. Things are just so busy." Because I really don't want to live that way anymore.
Sure, sometimes I'm still busy, and sometimes my days are super-full. But I'm not all proud of it anymore. In fact, when my calendar gets too stuffed, I get honest with myself about what's going on that's led me to pile up so many appointments or commitments. I get really curious. Especially if I'm saying yes to everyone but myself.
I know what you might be thinking - that you don't have any choice. That there's absolutely nothing you can do to escape the modern scourge of busyness. Or that if you do elect to be less busy, that you'll be excluded, ostracized, shunned. And God forbid you don't sign your kids up for every available sport, activity, party, etc. Really - if we weren't busy with all of this stuff, what would we post on Facebook? Pictures of us finally getting enough sleep???
If you are craving a weekend of less busy and more you, with time to think and reflect and perhaps create a new reality for yourself by figuring out how to say yes to what you really want and no to what you don't, consider joining me for my Clarity and Connections retreat in beautiful St. Francisville, LA, July 27-29. A small group of women gaining clarity about what we really want and connecting with nature, ourselves and each other. With waterfalls included! Check out the details here.
I've designed it for me - what I mean is that it's exactly what I want when I'm craving a weekend to press my own internal reset button. There will be plenty of Wordlessness à la Martha Beck, plus free time to lounge and reflect, along with some powerful tools that will give you major clarity, fast, even if like me, you're already sold on the idea of backing off on busy.
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And I'd love to hear your thoughts about busyness. How are you dealing with it in your daily life?